January Struggles?

January Struggles?

    I write this story  because I think it will help others. Here we are at the end of January. Many people suffer from the winter blues and it may be worse because of the pandemic.  I always thought I was one of them. For many years from January until the end of March I would get down in the dumps.   Then I started to learn Reality Therapy and my life was changing. I understood I had the ability to take control of my own life and not let things just happen to me. I was making so…
More Anxious than Usual?

More Anxious than Usual?

I have been thinking about how working online and at home has changed a few things. Most critically is the fact that you can receive e-mails all day and all night. Since COVID has happened it has been my experience that not only do we receive all these e-mails, but a lot of people expect you to answer right away!   I guess the significant thing is when it comes to our work. We talk about anxiety that people are experiencing and part of it is this culture that is growing. If we never take a break and do some…
We all need Power!

We all need Power!

    One of our very basic needs it the need for power! When I say that to people the usual response is something like: “What? I don’t need power!”. Is that really true? Let’s think about that for a minute. I understand the reluctance to accept this. After all power is generally defined this way: “Power is defined as the ability to act or have influence over others. An example of power is the strength needed to run five miles. An example of power is the authority a local government has to collect taxes.’ When I talk about power. I understand it in three…
You Don’t Know the Pain You Carry

You Don’t Know the Pain You Carry

    You don’t know how much pain you have until you get help. I heard this statement come out of my mouth after a recent hip replacement. I feel renewed and with no pain I can do what it takes to be walking well again. I sat and pondered this statement and started to think back over my life. This is an interesting statement. I was thinking about how I stayed  in a destructive relationship for 23 years.  There was a lot of good but there was also a lot of bad. Some would say you need to take…