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Moncton Reality Therapy Consultants

Creating a world where people experience "Happy Relationships"

“ There is always a simplicity about the present moment”. Eckhart Tolle.  When I read this quote, I thought for a minute and then said to myself, “ this is so true”. Seriously, when you are being totally present with yourself or in other words consciously aware, it is really simple.

In reality, the present moment is all we have and as much as we believe we can control all the moments in our life, it is not always true. When you are present with yourself and others life becomes so much easier. Eckhart Tolle just said it differently.

If you are focusing on the past, then you are not present.  If what you focus on in the past is pain then guess what, you will get more pain in the present, If you focus on your successes you will get more success in the present. Simple is it not?

What happens then when we focus on the future? We still are not in the present.  If the future is about worrying about something that has not happened yet, then you will get more worry.  If what you are focusing on in the future is your goals, dreams and aspirations with anticipation and excitement you will get more of that.

“Two percent of the people think; three percent think they think, and 95 percent would rather die than think.” Henry Ford

Thinking is a behaviour that we have control over. Yes, we have thoughts creep in and we wonder where they came from but we can choose to hang on to those thoughts or dismiss them.  Thinking is one of four parts to our behaviour.

Learn more about behaviour and awareness and living in the present by joining me October 17,18, and 19 for Realty Therapy Training in Riverview, New Brunswick.  For more information and to download a brochure: http://monctonrealitytherapy.com/choice-theory-training

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen McIntosh

LCT, ACC,M.Ed, CCC

506-386-5868

 

 

It all started when I was working with youth as a Registered Nurse Counselor in Sexual Health. After two years of working there, I realized I needed more skills. I could not continue the way I was working because I knew I would not last. My heart was full of empathy for the youth I was working with and there were many that I just wanted to take home with me!

I decided to take a Counselling Course at the University of New Brunswick, where I met a professor, who encouraged me to study the ideas of Dr. William Glasser. He suggested that the tools I would learn would really help me with the youth.

I took my first basic in 1987 and have not looked back since! The tools I gained as a nurse, counselor and now coach have served me my entire life since then. As a professional we want tools to help other people gain more effective control over their own lives. We want teachers to feel empowered in the classroom and to be able to manage the classroom in such a way that the students want to learn and they can teach.

As a manager, we want a positive work environment and employees that are happy to work with and for us.  If we do not understand human behavior, it is difficult to be competent and yet competency is what most of us want.

I have been a member of the Faculty of William Glasser International since 1988 and I continue to teach these ideas.  All I have ever experienced in teaching these ideas is inspired, excited learners! Most say it is the best training they have ever experienced!

I have spent a lifetime working with people and the most efficient and effective tools I ever received, I got in this training. I continue to learn and grow and can apply recent research about the brain and other learning back to these ideas. Dr. William Glasser was a world renowned psychiatrist that gave us so much about Mental Health and Happiness.

Does this appeal to you? Do you need for tools for your tool kit? Do you want tools that can serve you for a lifetime?

Check here: http://monctonrealitytherapy.com/choice-theory-training

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

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“ I am having a really bad day! The boss is upset and is all over me for some stupid thing I did and if you had not been in such a terrible mood this morning, it would not have been so bad!” End of Text!

Reply: “ Thanks a lot! Now I am having a bad day, no thanks to you!!” End of text

What is wrong with this picture? Many things can be read into it but here is the bottom line.  Before cell phones were invented, we might have had an actual conversation about what was happening but it would have been at the end of the working day once you both have returned home.

Now, everything happens in real time. The issue with this is that not only is the person writing it having a bad day but so now is the person receiving it and what follows is a flurry of texts that basically are using the deadly habits and causing a feud to escalate into a series of texts that basically are taking both people away from their tasks for the day at work.

This would not have happened prior to the cell phone. In general, people would have a conversation at the end of the day and try to work things out. Now with what I call “ the third voice” in the conversation the battle escalates all day long building more and more resentment.

What is the number one killer of relationships? Unresolved resentments! Couples need to make some rules around the engagement they are going to have through the regular workday.

What is “ the third voice “ bringing to your relationships? How do you interpret your third voice?  You see: it is impossible to interpret the written word as it is intended. We can only receive it as we perceive it and attach our meaning to it. What will you do with those texts? Do you have a management plan?

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

 

Today I experienced the wonderful opportunity to share breakfast with a group of retired Public Health Nurses.  Everyone is involve in various activities, from travelling, to spending time with grandchildren to working a little.

Someone looked at me and suggested that I was “ still working” to which I replied that “no I am not”. But we see all your posts and your promotions and the training and writing that you do! I laughed and said: “ I am living my retirement dream!”

You see I started planning for my retirement from public health in the early 90’s. Not that I did not enjoy my job at the time but with early retirement I could choose who I want to work with and what I want to do. You see in a government job I was limited in what I could do and who I could work with.

I had a dream of working more with adults as most of the problems the youth I was working with came from the adults in their lives! I was helping youth to take charge of their lives by learning how to interact with the adults around them, how to take responsibility for themselves and get more of what they wanted.  It was wonderful but what if we could prevent the need for all these youth to need so much help emotionally.

I love what I do and do not see it as work. However, last evening I listened to a young counselor speak about a local counseling center for youth.  The youth do not need to pay for services but now there is a wait list of about 80 youth. For me this is unacceptable.

The question is, how are we as a society letting our youth down? Why are so many having so many emotional issues? How is it that their needs are not being met? Are we so busy we don’t have time for our youth?

We all know that 90% of emotional problems are directly related to a significant relationship in our lives that is not the way we want it to be. It could be a parent, a grandparent, a teacher or some other significant person in our lives.

When I was working with youth, a lot of them had difficulties in school, saying no one really cared about them. All they wanted was good test scores and they could not see the sense in what they were being asked to learn!

The youth of today are our future. What are we doing to support them, help them grow through adversity and success? Are we listening and paying attention? They have the same basic needs as adults.  Are we truly there for them or do we spend our time criticizing?

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

www.monctonrealitytherapy.ca

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Heath J.

In my mid-30s, I made a life-changing decision to return to university. I sold my house and my car and moved to another country with my partner. It was all in pursuit of a dream career as a university professor. The problem? It made me miserable. Back in Canada for a few months, I sought out Maureen’s counsel. The decision was difficult for me: spend another two years studying something I disliked in a foreign country, but get closer to my dream job, or stop studying and pursue an alternate career path. Maureen never pressured, never judged. She taught me about choice theory, and helped me to identify and manage my insecurities. I found her to be a trustworthy, friendly voice of reason in a difficult, trying time.

I stopped my university studies, and a month later accepted an extremely fulfilling job as a college instructor and department head. I have the job I would have wanted, even if I had finished my degree. I feel happy, challenged and fulfilled. My personal relationships have also benefited from my certainty of choice and confidence. Maureen helped me find my way, and I am grateful for her wise counsel.

Heath J., Moncton

Barb

I thank you for all the opportunities and support you have given me over the many years of our friendship.

My relationship with you and Choice Choice theory has constantly guided and directed my life in a positive direction. The ability to change my thinking enriches my life each day. It helped me survive during the days of my deepest grief. You love your life and all those you have helped love you!

Barbara Rombough

Liette M. Collier

Choice Theory is a powerful life-changing tool. Its language has become a part of me and brings shared-awareness to my family and friends, clients, group participants, and work peers alike. Once we acknowledge the power of choice, that we own it, and that the impact of benefits and consequences alike are ours, we become not only empowered but also released from limiting beliefs and false boundaries.

Liette M. Collier

Robin Sauve

Maureen is a true expert in Choice Theory. She finds a way to apply relevant, practical applications of the theory into real life. Through coaching, Maureen invests a lot of time with her clients, making sure we consider all options. She is an excellent compassionate guide in this journey called life.

Robin Sauve, Marketing Manager

Wholesale & Specialty Products at Irving Oil

Carleen Glasser

Maureen is an outstanding faculty member of the William Glasser Institute! She has expertise in so many areas of the helping professions her contributions to the well-being and happiness of countless people of all ages is truly commendable. If only they could clone Maureen the world would be such a better place!

Carleen Glasser, CEO William Glasser, Inc.

Senior Faculty, Glasser Institute

Laura Prisc

I have been blessed to work with Maureen for several months, as my personal coach. She has skillfully facilitated my personal growth by asking the kinds of questions that require me to dig deep and get to the root of my beliefs, which sometimes hold me back! She provides very perceptive insights, and leads me through a process that drives me to more clearly define my wants, needs, and desires, along with actions I am committed to taking to move myself closer to the vision I hold for my future. I look forward to continuing this journey with Maureen, and highly recommend her as a teacher and coach. If you have the opportunity to work with her, do not hesitate for a second -- just say YES!less

Laura Prisc

Founder at Leadership & Life Potential, LLC

Owner, La Teraz

I have known Maureen as a counsellor, always really coaching for almost 20 years. I know very few people with the integrety and consistency that I have seen in the last two decades. Maureen has been teaching and guiding people in making choices for as long as I can remember with a professionalism and knowledge that is admired by other counselors in the city, including myself. When we host our own team building programs at La Teraz, even though I have training in the field and followed her courses in Choice Theory, I call her and her partner to facilitate the group's segment on Choice Theory. When I need to get honnest and reliable feedback, she is one of the primary people I consult in my own business to get the right questions asked to help me make my own choices to reach my ideal world in business. I not only accept to offer a recommendation I am honoured to refer her as one of the best in her field.less

Owner, La Teraz

Business Development Consultant

Rachelle Daigle

Met Maureen many years ago during a difficult life transition. She was recommended to me and I have been grateful for the connection. Through her teaching of Choice Theory she provides clarity, direction and empowerment to act. I have since been recommending her to anyone I know who is in need of her type of services. You can go see other couselors for months and start to feel better or you can go see Maureen and get direction within a few visits. the results last a life time. 
Love what you do Maureen!less

Rachelle Daigle

Business Development Consultant

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Maureen is a warm person who is passionate about making a difference in the lives of the people she works with. She is very knowledgeable in her field and much can be learned from her! Maureen thank you so much for a great and "ah ha" filled training, you are a great instructor and such an inspiration. The reason I took this course is because of someone who you taught in the past, which i think says a lot. I felt so comfortable, and your enthusiasm and passion made me want to pay attention to every word. I so look forward to continuing on this journey! Jill Wakelin

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Helping Financial Advisors (Heroes) Change Lives Forever!

LA Teraz

I very much agree that this training is of utmost benefit to anyone in counselling and in business and sales, I will decline, as i believe it so beneficial that I went for the full certification last year. Maureen is an excellent trainer and I benefited so much with her support, not only in certification, but in all the previous years of knowing this amazing coach. Wishing everyone the best experience in choosing to open this new door to understanding human behavior and choices

LA Teraz