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Creating a world where people experience "Happy Relationships"

 

 

Maureen McIntosh Dont Miss copyToday I am working on my presentation for a talk I am giving in Saint John on Sunday. I have been asked to talk about Sex, Libido and Intimacy. These are huge subjects to be covered in only ½ hour, but I will do my best to shed some light on the way I see things.

This will be at a women’s retreat in Saint John and women have been asking for this information. These are subjects that seem to be hidden even though information is all over the internet these days. The problem is in knowing what to believe and who to listen to.

This is an area that I got into accidentally. I applied for a day job in Reproductive Health, thinking that I was going to be helping women with fertility issues only to find out that I was going to be talking about sex with parents and more importantly youth. It was a huge learning curve but a journey I am very happy that I was able to take.

I learned so much and I love sharing what I have learned. Why we still have such a taboo about such this subject is beyond me! Knowledge is said to be power but I believe using knowledge is power. We can continue our lives blindly without information about these subject or we can empower ourselves.

This Sunday, October 27th I will be sharing with over 150 women and I am really looking forward to it. Tickets have been going fast but there are still a handful left, check it out here: https://balanceequation.co/the-balance-retreat/?fbclid=IwAR3xgJ5VO9FaUOPz214sCGtDDQfyrlpmun9s9M6FGO2eC_cw-tzydnaIrBQ

Yours in growing awarenesss

Maureen

 

Falling leaves small

 

Everything around us is constantly changing. As I ponder this I look outside and see the bright colors of our leaves on our trees. These will soon be falling off as they prepare for winter. My cactus plant is beginning to flower. It is supposed to be a Christmas Cactus, but it has never bloomed at Christmas.

After the warm summer, my African Violet is blooming as well. Speaking of blooming, our grandchildren were here over the weekend. They have had a very busy summer, so we have not had much time with them. It was fun to have them for Thanksgiving Dinner. They too are blooming into quite the young men and women.

With everything changing all the time, why is it that humans sometimes have difficulty with change? Change is the only thing we can be sure of. It will happen whether we want it to or not. But are we equipped to deal with change? Take the current election, will the elected government change? It has been like a ping pong show for a long time, back and forth between two parties. Do we take the time to really think into what is best for our country?

One of the first questions we ask when using Reality Therapy is “What do you want?” People are often surprized by this question. What do you mean they say? In many instances they have never been asked that question. For sure our children do not get asked that question very often. Oh yes, we ask it when choosing a piece of clothing or a toy or something but what about the important stuff?

You see that question is designed to tap into the pictures we hold in our head of people places and things we would like to have, be or do. These things are so important yet most of the world does not understand it. These are some of the skills learned in our Choice Theory, Reality Therapy Training. If you sign up for the training in the next five days, you will pay only $575.00. After October 20 it will be $805.00. So sign up today. www.choicetheorytraining.com

School

 

Education is not acquiring knowledge. It is best defined as using knowledge. As we think about the new school year about to start in the next week or so, remember this. Are we educating our children or simply schooling them.

“An important purpose of education is to nurture a love for life long learning in all students not kill it.” Dr. William Glasser

For years I was invited into the schools to speak with youth about relationships and healthy sexuality. I could have walked into the class and told them all the negative things about sex and leave, never having given any information on how to use the knowledge I gave them, but because I understood this about education, I was able to explain, why what I was teaching was important.

I was also able to give them the resources they needed to get their own information and how to access services they may nee; this included talking with a nurse counselor, a pharmacist, or attending an after hours clinic or family doctor and how to talk with their parents.

Today when we ask a child to learn something, do we explain the benefit in doing so. I remember I had a history teacher who, when we walked into the classroom, told us to sit in our desks open our books and she began to read the chapter. I saw no use in doing this in school and I had no interest in history. That is another aspect to education. Do we make learning fun? is I have I h

I have heard of history teachers that create reenactments in the classroom. How much fun would that have been. A lot of times there are power struggles in the classroom between teachers and students. Both are trying to meet a need but do not have the necessary tools to make that happen.

If something is not need satisfying, do you want to do it? How do we create need-satisfying environments for our kids to learn? Do we create open environments where mistakes are welcomed as part of learning and growing? Do allow for questions and discussions. Are we inclusive? Can children learn at their own rate, or are they left behind?

Lots to think about with the start of the new school year. As parents, maybe we can influence our youth by having these discussions with them. Our job is not to do their homework but to support and encourage them. It does no good to fight over homework. If fact it would be better for everyone if homework did not exist. How would you like to work all day and come home and work another couple of hours before bedtime?

I want to wish everyone a great new school year and may it be the best need-satisfying year yet! Let's talk about quality schools. Contact me: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

 

 

 

Respect in workplace

 

On May 29th we completed a Certification and Instructor program in Choice Theory, Reality Therapy and Lead Management. What this means is that the people certified had gone through all five levels of the William Glasser International Training Program and are recognized around the world by over 96,000 people as be Certified.

The people that chose to, stayed to follow the first level of the Instructor Program and will soon be helping to advance the ideas around the world. It was such a need-satisfying event for both my co-instructor Lynn Sumida and me.

Next month I am starting with a brand new group, August 19-21 and registrations are coming in but there is still time to join. I don’t normally talk a lot about Lead Management but in our organization we teach managers to be leaders, hence lead management.

According to Peter Drucker a manager:

1) Sets objectives. The manager sets goals for the group, and decides what work needs to be done to meet those goals.

2) Organizes. The manager divides the work into manageable activities, and selects people to accomplish the tasks that need to be done.

3) Motivates and communicates. The manager creates a team out of his people, through decisions on pay, placement, promotion, and through his communications with the team. Drucker also referred to this as the “integrating” function of the manager.

4) Measures. The manager establishes appropriate targets and yardsticks, and analyzes, appraises and interprets performance.

5) Develops people. With the rise of the knowledge worker, this task has taken on added importance. In a knowledge economy, people are the company’s most important asset, and it is up to the manager to develop that asset.

So often people are placed in the role of manager without any training in how to manage people. In our training we focus on how to manage people in such a way that it is a win-win proposition and people actually want to do quality work for the manger. Check us out. Our next training is listed here: www.choicetheorytraining.com

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Heath J.

In my mid-30s, I made a life-changing decision to return to university. I sold my house and my car and moved to another country with my partner. It was all in pursuit of a dream career as a university professor. The problem? It made me miserable. Back in Canada for a few months, I sought out Maureen’s counsel. The decision was difficult for me: spend another two years studying something I disliked in a foreign country, but get closer to my dream job, or stop studying and pursue an alternate career path. Maureen never pressured, never judged. She taught me about choice theory, and helped me to identify and manage my insecurities. I found her to be a trustworthy, friendly voice of reason in a difficult, trying time.

I stopped my university studies, and a month later accepted an extremely fulfilling job as a college instructor and department head. I have the job I would have wanted, even if I had finished my degree. I feel happy, challenged and fulfilled. My personal relationships have also benefited from my certainty of choice and confidence. Maureen helped me find my way, and I am grateful for her wise counsel.

Heath J., Moncton

Barb

I thank you for all the opportunities and support you have given me over the many years of our friendship.

My relationship with you and Choice Choice theory has constantly guided and directed my life in a positive direction. The ability to change my thinking enriches my life each day. It helped me survive during the days of my deepest grief. You love your life and all those you have helped love you!

Barbara Rombough

Liette M. Collier

Choice Theory is a powerful life-changing tool. Its language has become a part of me and brings shared-awareness to my family and friends, clients, group participants, and work peers alike. Once we acknowledge the power of choice, that we own it, and that the impact of benefits and consequences alike are ours, we become not only empowered but also released from limiting beliefs and false boundaries.

Liette M. Collier

Robin Sauve

Maureen is a true expert in Choice Theory. She finds a way to apply relevant, practical applications of the theory into real life. Through coaching, Maureen invests a lot of time with her clients, making sure we consider all options. She is an excellent compassionate guide in this journey called life.

Robin Sauve, Marketing Manager

Wholesale & Specialty Products at Irving Oil

Carleen Glasser

Maureen is an outstanding faculty member of the William Glasser Institute! She has expertise in so many areas of the helping professions her contributions to the well-being and happiness of countless people of all ages is truly commendable. If only they could clone Maureen the world would be such a better place!

Carleen Glasser, CEO William Glasser, Inc.

Senior Faculty, Glasser Institute

Laura Prisc

I have been blessed to work with Maureen for several months, as my personal coach. She has skillfully facilitated my personal growth by asking the kinds of questions that require me to dig deep and get to the root of my beliefs, which sometimes hold me back! She provides very perceptive insights, and leads me through a process that drives me to more clearly define my wants, needs, and desires, along with actions I am committed to taking to move myself closer to the vision I hold for my future. I look forward to continuing this journey with Maureen, and highly recommend her as a teacher and coach. If you have the opportunity to work with her, do not hesitate for a second -- just say YES!less

Laura Prisc

Founder at Leadership & Life Potential, LLC

Owner, La Teraz

I have known Maureen as a counsellor, always really coaching for almost 20 years. I know very few people with the integrety and consistency that I have seen in the last two decades. Maureen has been teaching and guiding people in making choices for as long as I can remember with a professionalism and knowledge that is admired by other counselors in the city, including myself. When we host our own team building programs at La Teraz, even though I have training in the field and followed her courses in Choice Theory, I call her and her partner to facilitate the group's segment on Choice Theory. When I need to get honnest and reliable feedback, she is one of the primary people I consult in my own business to get the right questions asked to help me make my own choices to reach my ideal world in business. I not only accept to offer a recommendation I am honoured to refer her as one of the best in her field.less

Owner, La Teraz

Business Development Consultant

Rachelle Daigle

Met Maureen many years ago during a difficult life transition. She was recommended to me and I have been grateful for the connection. Through her teaching of Choice Theory she provides clarity, direction and empowerment to act. I have since been recommending her to anyone I know who is in need of her type of services. You can go see other couselors for months and start to feel better or you can go see Maureen and get direction within a few visits. the results last a life time. 
Love what you do Maureen!less

Rachelle Daigle

Business Development Consultant

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Maureen is a warm person who is passionate about making a difference in the lives of the people she works with. She is very knowledgeable in her field and much can be learned from her! Maureen thank you so much for a great and "ah ha" filled training, you are a great instructor and such an inspiration. The reason I took this course is because of someone who you taught in the past, which i think says a lot. I felt so comfortable, and your enthusiasm and passion made me want to pay attention to every word. I so look forward to continuing on this journey! Jill Wakelin

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Helping Financial Advisors (Heroes) Change Lives Forever!

LA Teraz

I very much agree that this training is of utmost benefit to anyone in counselling and in business and sales, I will decline, as i believe it so beneficial that I went for the full certification last year. Maureen is an excellent trainer and I benefited so much with her support, not only in certification, but in all the previous years of knowing this amazing coach. Wishing everyone the best experience in choosing to open this new door to understanding human behavior and choices

LA Teraz