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Today, I have been up since 6:30 am and have been busy ever since. The rain is coming down so we won’t be doing outside work today! But it sure is nice to have the rain. The birds were chirping early. We could see them standing out in the rain.

We went out early to pick up some coffee from our favorite place and feeling the rain drops on my head and my shirt felt really good I just wanted to go home and put my swim suit on like I did as a kid and run around in the rain. You see I still have the mind of a child at heart.

Speaking of that, one of our basic need is the need for fun. The level of that need varies for each person but we all have it to a certain extent. Here is the thing, it is the pictures we have in our head of how we meet that need.

Very often, the reward for learning something new is fun. Or think about every time you laugh at a joke, did you just learn something new or see something a different way?

Fun can also be any number of things. I love basketball and cannot wait for our next season to begin. Others love hockey. Other love movies…you love something else and each time you involve yourself in something fun you will feel better. We sometimes put that aside for other things but if your fun need is high, it is really important that you include that in your daily activity.

Do you want to learn more about the Basic Needs we all have and more importantly the pictures we have to meet those needs? Why not join me online this September 18, 2018. http://www.choicetheoryonline.com/upcoming-training-dates

Today, I have been up since 6:30 am and have been busy ever since. The rain is coming down so we won’t be doing outside work today! But it sure is nice to have the rain. The birds were chirping early. We could see them standing out in the rain.

 

We went out early to pick up some coffee from our favorite place and feeling the rain drops on my head and my shirt felt really good I just wanted to go home and put my swim suit on like I did as a kid and run around in the rain. You see I still have the mind of a child at heart. 

 

Speaking of that, one of our basic need is the need for fun. The level of that need varies for each person but we all have it to a certain extent. Here is the thing, it is the pictures we have in our head of how we meet that need. 

 

Very often, the reward for learning something new is fun. Or think about every time you laugh at a joke, did you just learn something new or see something a different way?

 

Fun can also be any number of things. I love basketball and cannot wait for our next season to begin. Others love hockey. Other love movies…you love something else and each time you involve yourself in something fun you will feel better. We sometimes put that aside for other things but if your fun need is high, it is really important that you include that in your daily activity.

 

Do you want to learn more about the Basic Needs we all have and more importantly the pictures we have to meet those needs? Why not join me online this September 18, 2018.  http://www.choicetheoryonline.com/upcoming-training-dates

 

 

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

When I bought my new car in 2013, I made a promise to myself that I was going to take very good care of it. So I made a plan to have it rust checked annually and detailed at least twice a year.

I chose to have this work done by Dents and Stones Automotive here in Riverview. I have stayed true to my word and have gone there every year since. In June this year, I went for my usual end of winter/spring cleaning. This time would be different.

I always love the feel of my car after they are done with the work there! Every detail is covered and it feels like new! This time though, the owner, Mike Stone looked at me and said I have good news and bad news for you!

“Your car is nice and clean but the only problem is we had a small accident. Let me show you. “ My vehicle had been backed into. Mike was so apologetic that he refused payment for his work and told me that they would do the repairs. He was ordering new parts for it.

To me it was a small dent and since he said he would look after it, I was not concerned. He said he would call when he could get it back in to repair.

Later that same day, I had gone grocery shopping. That evening when I went out again I discovered another scratch on my bumper. Someone had rubbed against it in the parking lot. It was the only place I had been with my car.

Customer service and more importantly Customer Care is really important to Mike. He called last week and I took my car in . Not only did he repair my car with new parts but he also took care of the little scratch. Again, payment was refused and I said the only thing left for me to do now is come back in later in the fall for another cleaning and my rust check.

A couple of days later, I had been out and dropped into Dents and Stones for my car. Mike told me he had left it at my house so I just needed to pick up my key. Later that day when we went out with the car, they had also cleaned the inside of the car again.

The reason I am writing this is because first, it is a good news story. But the biggest reason I am writing it is that at Dents and Stones in Riverview I have always had great service! But this recent series of events told me that Customer Care is of top importance with Dents and Stones Automotive.

Dents and Stones will continue to keep my car in like new condition. Thanks to Mike Stone and his staff!


We have been mired in a heat wave for some time now. This is really great for our tourism industry here in New Brunswick. Yesterday we were to have several thunder storms that did not materialize but we did have the rain. My planters and grass and garden were grateful to get the rain.

My perennials are growing like crazy. When I planted that garden, I did so because I am not really a gardener but over the years I have enjoyed looking after these plants. This year, however, has been different. I really am not a fan of the high heat and it does not really cool off until after dark so my plants are growing fast and furious without much care!

It is kind of like business, we can grow fast and furious and not pay too much attention to what is really happening. It is all fun and exciting until one day you realize that you have know idea where you are going. You have done created any goals and you are beginning to feel like you are on overload.

You know you need to do something but you are stifled. It is like my plants. I know they need to be trimmed and I want to do it but I am feeling held hostage by the heat. I have a choice, I could call my lawn care folks and let them do the job for me, which makes total sense because I have enough to do or I can let them continue to grow out of control, which is going to be a bigger problem down the road.

The same is true when you are an entrepreneur or when you have some important things that you want to accomplish. Is it worth taking a step back and hiring a coach to help you get on track? What could a coach do for you? An effective coach is a good listener and will ask great questions to help you dig deeper and find your own inner resources. Sometimes we just need that person in our court!

I don’t speak about this very often, but I am a Certified Personal and Executive Coach and I member of the International Coach Federation and I accept a limited amount of coaching clients per year. Yes, I can offer this online. If I can be of service to you, just contact me via my e-mail and we could set up a brief conversation to see if we are a good fit. This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

www.monctonrealitytherapy.ca

506-386-5868

It was such a pleasant morning and after an accountability call, with the clear air, I took some time to reflect. I was going back to Dr. William Glasser’s 1965 edition of Reality Therapy and at that time he wrote that it was a therapy to move people toward reality.

It is interesting when one hears the term Reality Therapy the first thing that they say to me is : “ you mean get real?”   Yes, in all honestly that is exactly it. But what does it mean to get real.

Over the last thirty years the ideas have evolved and even in 1965 Dr. Glasser was writing about what appears to most of us as “ crazy behavior” is an individual’s attempt to find a behavior to meet their needs.

Fast forward to 2018, we a still understand that all anyone is trying to do is meet their own needs. Minimally, we need a good relationship with at least one person in our lives.

With his book, Choice Theory, he gave us an explanation of the “ how and why we behave”. He explains the needs and behavior in great detail. The reality therapy became known as Counseling, Coaching, Teaching. Parenting, Managing with Choice Theory.

Choice Theory explains why what we are doing or not doing is working or not working for us. We have specific procedures that lead to change. In 1965, Dr. Glasser emphasized the need to create a good relationship with the person we are helping. He never swayed from that his entire life. So this is the first procedure to be aware of. If you cannot trust the person you are working with, how effective will it be?

To me it’s logical.   We emphasize the procedures that lead to change in our training programs. When you complete even the Basic Intensive you will have a basic understanding of how and why we do what we do and you will have learned the procedures that lead to change.

Consider joining me August 14,15, 16 for my next Basic Intensive. Learn more and sign up here: www.choicetheorytraining.com

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Heath J.

In my mid-30s, I made a life-changing decision to return to university. I sold my house and my car and moved to another country with my partner. It was all in pursuit of a dream career as a university professor. The problem? It made me miserable. Back in Canada for a few months, I sought out Maureen’s counsel. The decision was difficult for me: spend another two years studying something I disliked in a foreign country, but get closer to my dream job, or stop studying and pursue an alternate career path. Maureen never pressured, never judged. She taught me about choice theory, and helped me to identify and manage my insecurities. I found her to be a trustworthy, friendly voice of reason in a difficult, trying time.

I stopped my university studies, and a month later accepted an extremely fulfilling job as a college instructor and department head. I have the job I would have wanted, even if I had finished my degree. I feel happy, challenged and fulfilled. My personal relationships have also benefited from my certainty of choice and confidence. Maureen helped me find my way, and I am grateful for her wise counsel.

Heath J., Moncton

Barb

I thank you for all the opportunities and support you have given me over the many years of our friendship.

My relationship with you and Choice Choice theory has constantly guided and directed my life in a positive direction. The ability to change my thinking enriches my life each day. It helped me survive during the days of my deepest grief. You love your life and all those you have helped love you!

Barbara Rombough

Liette M. Collier

Choice Theory is a powerful life-changing tool. Its language has become a part of me and brings shared-awareness to my family and friends, clients, group participants, and work peers alike. Once we acknowledge the power of choice, that we own it, and that the impact of benefits and consequences alike are ours, we become not only empowered but also released from limiting beliefs and false boundaries.

Liette M. Collier

Robin Sauve

Maureen is a true expert in Choice Theory. She finds a way to apply relevant, practical applications of the theory into real life. Through coaching, Maureen invests a lot of time with her clients, making sure we consider all options. She is an excellent compassionate guide in this journey called life.

Robin Sauve, Marketing Manager

Wholesale & Specialty Products at Irving Oil

Carleen Glasser

Maureen is an outstanding faculty member of the William Glasser Institute! She has expertise in so many areas of the helping professions her contributions to the well-being and happiness of countless people of all ages is truly commendable. If only they could clone Maureen the world would be such a better place!

Carleen Glasser, CEO William Glasser, Inc.

Senior Faculty, Glasser Institute

Laura Prisc

I have been blessed to work with Maureen for several months, as my personal coach. She has skillfully facilitated my personal growth by asking the kinds of questions that require me to dig deep and get to the root of my beliefs, which sometimes hold me back! She provides very perceptive insights, and leads me through a process that drives me to more clearly define my wants, needs, and desires, along with actions I am committed to taking to move myself closer to the vision I hold for my future. I look forward to continuing this journey with Maureen, and highly recommend her as a teacher and coach. If you have the opportunity to work with her, do not hesitate for a second -- just say YES!less

Laura Prisc

Founder at Leadership & Life Potential, LLC

Owner, La Teraz

I have known Maureen as a counsellor, always really coaching for almost 20 years. I know very few people with the integrety and consistency that I have seen in the last two decades. Maureen has been teaching and guiding people in making choices for as long as I can remember with a professionalism and knowledge that is admired by other counselors in the city, including myself. When we host our own team building programs at La Teraz, even though I have training in the field and followed her courses in Choice Theory, I call her and her partner to facilitate the group's segment on Choice Theory. When I need to get honnest and reliable feedback, she is one of the primary people I consult in my own business to get the right questions asked to help me make my own choices to reach my ideal world in business. I not only accept to offer a recommendation I am honoured to refer her as one of the best in her field.less

Owner, La Teraz

Business Development Consultant

Rachelle Daigle

Met Maureen many years ago during a difficult life transition. She was recommended to me and I have been grateful for the connection. Through her teaching of Choice Theory she provides clarity, direction and empowerment to act. I have since been recommending her to anyone I know who is in need of her type of services. You can go see other couselors for months and start to feel better or you can go see Maureen and get direction within a few visits. the results last a life time. 
Love what you do Maureen!less

Rachelle Daigle

Business Development Consultant

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Maureen is a warm person who is passionate about making a difference in the lives of the people she works with. She is very knowledgeable in her field and much can be learned from her! Maureen thank you so much for a great and "ah ha" filled training, you are a great instructor and such an inspiration. The reason I took this course is because of someone who you taught in the past, which i think says a lot. I felt so comfortable, and your enthusiasm and passion made me want to pay attention to every word. I so look forward to continuing on this journey! Jill Wakelin

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Helping Financial Advisors (Heroes) Change Lives Forever!

LA Teraz

I very much agree that this training is of utmost benefit to anyone in counselling and in business and sales, I will decline, as i believe it so beneficial that I went for the full certification last year. Maureen is an excellent trainer and I benefited so much with her support, not only in certification, but in all the previous years of knowing this amazing coach. Wishing everyone the best experience in choosing to open this new door to understanding human behavior and choices

LA Teraz