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I recently attended my first basketball game of the season. We have a new team with new owners and there is a lot of hope in the air! The owners are doing a great job with advertising, merchandize, supporting the coach with capital to get the best players. It is really interesting to see this develop.

The last few years it has been mostly the league carrying the team because owners had not been found. What a difference when an entrepreneurs takes over. They have stepped up to the plate and are focused on getting the job done. They are invested in the outcome.  They know about setting vision, mission and goals and creating the plan to go after said vision. The name of our new team is appropriate because you can actually see and begin to feel the magic.

The team is the Moncton Magic and last evening they were playing against the Saint John Riptide. There were still two players to be cut from the team so they were all working hard for a spot.  The interesting thing is that there was a great crowd that filled the gym at Crandall University.  The buzz about is that of hope. You can feel hope when it is around you.

With new owners and a new team, people are coming on board. Really when it comes to sports, I find people quite fickle. They do not show up and support losers. Maybe I am the crazy one here but I supported the team we had for the six years they played. I never lost hope.

I guess the difference between those that stayed connected and supported the team and those that left is that those that stayed knew that to have “ hope” is a choice.  Besides they were there for the love of the game and value never giving up.

This group of owners will need great support from the community in order to stay in business. I hope the community will step up and support them. Otherwise we will be back at square one. I did see people in the crowd that I have not seen at the games in recent years and lots of interest in supporting this new team

Time will tell. What about you? Do you have a favorite sport? Do you support your team or do you give up on them. I learned a long time ago that “ persistence is the key to success”.

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

www.monctonrealitytherapy.ca

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“Good friends can keep their friendship going for a lifetime because they do not indulge in the fantasies of ownership.” Dr. William Glasser 

As I was going through some of my files this morning I came one of my favorite quotes from Dr. Glasser.  How true is that statement? Think about your long term friendships. Have you ever tried to control a friend? If you have, I bet you are not friends now.

I have a group of friends that I meet with every Wednesday afternoon. I can honestly say there is not one of them that tries to own the other. We have a really good time and we can talk about just about anything and know we are respected and safe.

What are so many intimate relationships about ownership?   About 52% of marriages end in divorce for that very reason.  What amazes me is the number of people that talk about having a best friend but they would not want to date or marry them because it would ruin their friendship.

Yet, real love is about just that. It is about choosing behaviors that bring us closer together, just like friends do.  Trying to live full time with someone you care about is a challenge indeed but when you are friends and you respect and care about each other you figure it out>

You see, chemistry can bring us together, but loving behavior keeps us together.  Jealousy is not love. Jealousy is about power and control. Criticism is the most destructive behavior we have when it comes to our relationships.

We can be open and honest and share our dreams and aspirations when we have a loving supportive environment and it takes two people to make that happen. Both have to want to contribute to the relationship.

Have you heard of “ fair fighting?”  In a good relationship both can be heard and sometimes you just agree to disagree but both keep the value of the relationship they have at the forefront.

Do you want to learn more about this subject? Join me February 2,3, and 4 for in-person Basic certificate training in Choice Theory, Reality Therapy and Lead Management.  www.choicetheorytraining.com

Our next online Basic starts Feb 6, 7pm ADT. Check it out here: http://www.choicetheoryonline.com/index.php/en/upcoming-training-dates

There is one thing I know for sure. Successful people focus on personal growth. This is evident by the number of views on the facebook live interview I did yesterday with Nick Pereria. I had so much fun adding value to you. Sometimes we hold back from doing the very things we want to do. We don’t step up and go for it.

When I say that learning Reality Therapy and Choice Theory changed my life for the better and I have never looked back, I truly mean that. It is the best information and training I ever received. I have tools that I use on a continual basis when I interact with people. 

As a counselor I have helped hundreds of people over the years with these simple yet powerful techniques. As a co-worker, I used these ideas to create a great working environment and now as a coach, I still use these tools to help others move forward in their lives. That being said: I have two two opportunities in front of you. I have an in person Choice theory training program October 17,18,19. If you are interested and want to make payment plans contact me directly.

For some of you it is not possible to take 3 days in a row. I want to let you know that I am starting a Choice Theory online program on Tuesday at 4pm next week. This course is under NBCC and is a college psych. Course # 1071 as well as approved as a Basic Intensive Certificate with William Glasser International. www.choicetheoryonline.com

It is really important that you act on the online course today and the in-person course by Oct 12http://monctonrealitytherapy.com/choice-theory-training  or contact me for a payment plan

If you have been intending to do this now is the time! Don’t wait! The tools are too invaluable.  As Sheryl Matwijkiw, of Australia said yesterday “ Choice Theory changed my Life!”

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

“ There is always a simplicity about the present moment”. Eckhart Tolle.  When I read this quote, I thought for a minute and then said to myself, “ this is so true”. Seriously, when you are being totally present with yourself or in other words consciously aware, it is really simple.

In reality, the present moment is all we have and as much as we believe we can control all the moments in our life, it is not always true. When you are present with yourself and others life becomes so much easier. Eckhart Tolle just said it differently.

If you are focusing on the past, then you are not present.  If what you focus on in the past is pain then guess what, you will get more pain in the present, If you focus on your successes you will get more success in the present. Simple is it not?

What happens then when we focus on the future? We still are not in the present.  If the future is about worrying about something that has not happened yet, then you will get more worry.  If what you are focusing on in the future is your goals, dreams and aspirations with anticipation and excitement you will get more of that.

“Two percent of the people think; three percent think they think, and 95 percent would rather die than think.” Henry Ford

Thinking is a behaviour that we have control over. Yes, we have thoughts creep in and we wonder where they came from but we can choose to hang on to those thoughts or dismiss them.  Thinking is one of four parts to our behaviour.

Learn more about behaviour and awareness and living in the present by joining me October 17,18, and 19 for Realty Therapy Training in Riverview, New Brunswick.  For more information and to download a brochure: http://monctonrealitytherapy.com/choice-theory-training

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen McIntosh

LCT, ACC,M.Ed, CCC

506-386-5868

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Heath J.

In my mid-30s, I made a life-changing decision to return to university. I sold my house and my car and moved to another country with my partner. It was all in pursuit of a dream career as a university professor. The problem? It made me miserable. Back in Canada for a few months, I sought out Maureen’s counsel. The decision was difficult for me: spend another two years studying something I disliked in a foreign country, but get closer to my dream job, or stop studying and pursue an alternate career path. Maureen never pressured, never judged. She taught me about choice theory, and helped me to identify and manage my insecurities. I found her to be a trustworthy, friendly voice of reason in a difficult, trying time.

I stopped my university studies, and a month later accepted an extremely fulfilling job as a college instructor and department head. I have the job I would have wanted, even if I had finished my degree. I feel happy, challenged and fulfilled. My personal relationships have also benefited from my certainty of choice and confidence. Maureen helped me find my way, and I am grateful for her wise counsel.

Heath J., Moncton

Barb

I thank you for all the opportunities and support you have given me over the many years of our friendship.

My relationship with you and Choice Choice theory has constantly guided and directed my life in a positive direction. The ability to change my thinking enriches my life each day. It helped me survive during the days of my deepest grief. You love your life and all those you have helped love you!

Barbara Rombough

Liette M. Collier

Choice Theory is a powerful life-changing tool. Its language has become a part of me and brings shared-awareness to my family and friends, clients, group participants, and work peers alike. Once we acknowledge the power of choice, that we own it, and that the impact of benefits and consequences alike are ours, we become not only empowered but also released from limiting beliefs and false boundaries.

Liette M. Collier

Robin Sauve

Maureen is a true expert in Choice Theory. She finds a way to apply relevant, practical applications of the theory into real life. Through coaching, Maureen invests a lot of time with her clients, making sure we consider all options. She is an excellent compassionate guide in this journey called life.

Robin Sauve, Marketing Manager

Wholesale & Specialty Products at Irving Oil

Carleen Glasser

Maureen is an outstanding faculty member of the William Glasser Institute! She has expertise in so many areas of the helping professions her contributions to the well-being and happiness of countless people of all ages is truly commendable. If only they could clone Maureen the world would be such a better place!

Carleen Glasser, CEO William Glasser, Inc.

Senior Faculty, Glasser Institute

Laura Prisc

I have been blessed to work with Maureen for several months, as my personal coach. She has skillfully facilitated my personal growth by asking the kinds of questions that require me to dig deep and get to the root of my beliefs, which sometimes hold me back! She provides very perceptive insights, and leads me through a process that drives me to more clearly define my wants, needs, and desires, along with actions I am committed to taking to move myself closer to the vision I hold for my future. I look forward to continuing this journey with Maureen, and highly recommend her as a teacher and coach. If you have the opportunity to work with her, do not hesitate for a second -- just say YES!less

Laura Prisc

Founder at Leadership & Life Potential, LLC

Owner, La Teraz

I have known Maureen as a counsellor, always really coaching for almost 20 years. I know very few people with the integrety and consistency that I have seen in the last two decades. Maureen has been teaching and guiding people in making choices for as long as I can remember with a professionalism and knowledge that is admired by other counselors in the city, including myself. When we host our own team building programs at La Teraz, even though I have training in the field and followed her courses in Choice Theory, I call her and her partner to facilitate the group's segment on Choice Theory. When I need to get honnest and reliable feedback, she is one of the primary people I consult in my own business to get the right questions asked to help me make my own choices to reach my ideal world in business. I not only accept to offer a recommendation I am honoured to refer her as one of the best in her field.less

Owner, La Teraz

Business Development Consultant

Rachelle Daigle

Met Maureen many years ago during a difficult life transition. She was recommended to me and I have been grateful for the connection. Through her teaching of Choice Theory she provides clarity, direction and empowerment to act. I have since been recommending her to anyone I know who is in need of her type of services. You can go see other couselors for months and start to feel better or you can go see Maureen and get direction within a few visits. the results last a life time. 
Love what you do Maureen!less

Rachelle Daigle

Business Development Consultant

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Maureen is a warm person who is passionate about making a difference in the lives of the people she works with. She is very knowledgeable in her field and much can be learned from her! Maureen thank you so much for a great and "ah ha" filled training, you are a great instructor and such an inspiration. The reason I took this course is because of someone who you taught in the past, which i think says a lot. I felt so comfortable, and your enthusiasm and passion made me want to pay attention to every word. I so look forward to continuing on this journey! Jill Wakelin

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Helping Financial Advisors (Heroes) Change Lives Forever!

LA Teraz

I very much agree that this training is of utmost benefit to anyone in counselling and in business and sales, I will decline, as i believe it so beneficial that I went for the full certification last year. Maureen is an excellent trainer and I benefited so much with her support, not only in certification, but in all the previous years of knowing this amazing coach. Wishing everyone the best experience in choosing to open this new door to understanding human behavior and choices

LA Teraz