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Today I want to talk about perspective. You see, I have been seeing a lot of crazy posts on social media and it occurred to me that in some cases there is not too much critical thinking going on. What do I mean by that?

We all take information in through our five senses and we convert that information to a perception. Here is the thing though! We create our perception based on our life experiences, everything we have learned from the time we are born! The kicker is we then act as if what we just perceived is true because we perceived it.

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and the other person responds entirely different to how you thought they would? That is because they are taking in information in exactly the same way but they are attaching their perspective to it! Now we have two people supposedly talking about the same information but from a different perspective.

Do we every stop and think about what is happening? Do we ask about the other person’s perception of what just happened?  Or do we let it escalate to an argument without checking what the other person perceived? There is so much to understand about human behavior and we are all doing the best we can with the knowledge that we currently have.

This explains why there is so much misunderstanding, confusion and misinterpretation of all that we are asked to do in this pandemic. Add to that all the emotions that go along with this and we have many people having real difficulty in adapting to this new norm.

I hope this sheds some light for you and if you are interested in learning more why not join me online starting May 5th. Register here: www.choicetheoryonline.com

Stop sign

 

Just STOP! It is impossible for you to do it all. For some reason when we are being sent home to self-isolate or work from home, there seems to be an increase in people wanting to be able to manage it all. Now they are working from home for their jobs and now have added teaching at home. Add to that all the regular household chores. We need to manage the uncertainty to the best of our ability.

S “ means safety first. Always keep this in mind. The children are home to be safe. You are home to be safe. Your partners are home to be safe. This has to be the priority at this time. So what are you doing to keep yourself safe?

T” means take the time to share and explain what is going on. Take the time to assess where you are right now and what is feasible to accomplish. Are you taking your own time-out to refuel and recharge?

O’ is to manage overwhelm.  It is ok if you cannot handle everything. It is impossible to work at home with all the family present and expect to sit at a computer for an entire regular work day. At your workplace you do take five minutes here and there to share with your co-workers. Now your co-worker has changed. Can you take five minutes every now and then to share with other family members at home with you?

P “ is about preventing overwhelm.  It is about not pressuring yourself to be perfect at everything at this time. It is about preserving your mental health. We are experiencing different times and if we take care of ourselves and our families to the best of our ability we will weather this storm.

STOP everything and keep the main thing the main thing! Safety first. Everything else is secondary. Remember to focus on what you can control. There are many things over which you have no control right now, so let that go and STOP and ask yourself” do I have control over that? “

 Stay in the present. Worry is in the future and is focusing on something that we have made up in our minds, because we really do not know what the future brings. Stay in the present. If you find yourself worrying, pick a time of day and just worry about everything for no more than about 20 minutes, then let it go.

 

 

Change

As I reflected on my Christmas break, I asked myself what was it about Reality Therapy Training that I liked so much? As I remember back to the days, I was learning the ideas, I was searching for tools to use with youth. I got way more than I thought I would. Not only did I have a process for counselling teens, I also had a new communication process for speaking with almost anyone.

We learned about the needs that drive us and the importance of the pictures we have in our head of things that we want. We learned the connection between the two. The explanation was called Control Theory at the time and in 1996, Dr. Glasser rewrote Control Theory and changed it to better reflect the fact that we can choose our behavior and our thinking and influence how we feel and what goes on physically.

It was the most empowering training I ever received, and I continue to empower others and myself every time I offer the program. The concepts are simple but not so easy to apply. I could say that the training changed my life but in reality it was my application of what I learned that enabled me to completely change my life for the better.

Many people have had the same experience. If you want to see some testimonials. Have a look on my website: http://www.monctonrealitytherapy.ca

If you would like to learn more about the training visit: http://www.choicetheorytraining.com

There are two options coming up. One is in person training over four weeks one day per week starting February 20,2020 or online www.choicetheoryonline.com starting February 18, 2020

If you want to Take Charge of Your Life or help someone else to take charge of their life, sign up today. You will not regret this training. Guaranteed.

 

 

Maureen McIntosh Dont Miss copyToday I am working on my presentation for a talk I am giving in Saint John on Sunday. I have been asked to talk about Sex, Libido and Intimacy. These are huge subjects to be covered in only ½ hour, but I will do my best to shed some light on the way I see things.

This will be at a women’s retreat in Saint John and women have been asking for this information. These are subjects that seem to be hidden even though information is all over the internet these days. The problem is in knowing what to believe and who to listen to.

This is an area that I got into accidentally. I applied for a day job in Reproductive Health, thinking that I was going to be helping women with fertility issues only to find out that I was going to be talking about sex with parents and more importantly youth. It was a huge learning curve but a journey I am very happy that I was able to take.

I learned so much and I love sharing what I have learned. Why we still have such a taboo about such this subject is beyond me! Knowledge is said to be power but I believe using knowledge is power. We can continue our lives blindly without information about these subject or we can empower ourselves.

This Sunday, October 27th I will be sharing with over 150 women and I am really looking forward to it. Tickets have been going fast but there are still a handful left, check it out here: https://balanceequation.co/the-balance-retreat/?fbclid=IwAR3xgJ5VO9FaUOPz214sCGtDDQfyrlpmun9s9M6FGO2eC_cw-tzydnaIrBQ

Yours in growing awarenesss

Maureen

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Heath J.

In my mid-30s, I made a life-changing decision to return to university. I sold my house and my car and moved to another country with my partner. It was all in pursuit of a dream career as a university professor. The problem? It made me miserable. Back in Canada for a few months, I sought out Maureen’s counsel. The decision was difficult for me: spend another two years studying something I disliked in a foreign country, but get closer to my dream job, or stop studying and pursue an alternate career path. Maureen never pressured, never judged. She taught me about choice theory, and helped me to identify and manage my insecurities. I found her to be a trustworthy, friendly voice of reason in a difficult, trying time.

I stopped my university studies, and a month later accepted an extremely fulfilling job as a college instructor and department head. I have the job I would have wanted, even if I had finished my degree. I feel happy, challenged and fulfilled. My personal relationships have also benefited from my certainty of choice and confidence. Maureen helped me find my way, and I am grateful for her wise counsel.

Heath J., Moncton

Barb

I thank you for all the opportunities and support you have given me over the many years of our friendship.

My relationship with you and Choice Choice theory has constantly guided and directed my life in a positive direction. The ability to change my thinking enriches my life each day. It helped me survive during the days of my deepest grief. You love your life and all those you have helped love you!

Barbara Rombough

Liette M. Collier

Choice Theory is a powerful life-changing tool. Its language has become a part of me and brings shared-awareness to my family and friends, clients, group participants, and work peers alike. Once we acknowledge the power of choice, that we own it, and that the impact of benefits and consequences alike are ours, we become not only empowered but also released from limiting beliefs and false boundaries.

Liette M. Collier

Robin Sauve

Maureen is a true expert in Choice Theory. She finds a way to apply relevant, practical applications of the theory into real life. Through coaching, Maureen invests a lot of time with her clients, making sure we consider all options. She is an excellent compassionate guide in this journey called life.

Robin Sauve, Marketing Manager

Wholesale & Specialty Products at Irving Oil

Carleen Glasser

Maureen is an outstanding faculty member of the William Glasser Institute! She has expertise in so many areas of the helping professions her contributions to the well-being and happiness of countless people of all ages is truly commendable. If only they could clone Maureen the world would be such a better place!

Carleen Glasser, CEO William Glasser, Inc.

Senior Faculty, Glasser Institute

Laura Prisc

I have been blessed to work with Maureen for several months, as my personal coach. She has skillfully facilitated my personal growth by asking the kinds of questions that require me to dig deep and get to the root of my beliefs, which sometimes hold me back! She provides very perceptive insights, and leads me through a process that drives me to more clearly define my wants, needs, and desires, along with actions I am committed to taking to move myself closer to the vision I hold for my future. I look forward to continuing this journey with Maureen, and highly recommend her as a teacher and coach. If you have the opportunity to work with her, do not hesitate for a second -- just say YES!less

Laura Prisc

Founder at Leadership & Life Potential, LLC

Owner, La Teraz

I have known Maureen as a counsellor, always really coaching for almost 20 years. I know very few people with the integrety and consistency that I have seen in the last two decades. Maureen has been teaching and guiding people in making choices for as long as I can remember with a professionalism and knowledge that is admired by other counselors in the city, including myself. When we host our own team building programs at La Teraz, even though I have training in the field and followed her courses in Choice Theory, I call her and her partner to facilitate the group's segment on Choice Theory. When I need to get honnest and reliable feedback, she is one of the primary people I consult in my own business to get the right questions asked to help me make my own choices to reach my ideal world in business. I not only accept to offer a recommendation I am honoured to refer her as one of the best in her field.less

Owner, La Teraz

Business Development Consultant

Rachelle Daigle

Met Maureen many years ago during a difficult life transition. She was recommended to me and I have been grateful for the connection. Through her teaching of Choice Theory she provides clarity, direction and empowerment to act. I have since been recommending her to anyone I know who is in need of her type of services. You can go see other couselors for months and start to feel better or you can go see Maureen and get direction within a few visits. the results last a life time. 
Love what you do Maureen!less

Rachelle Daigle

Business Development Consultant

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Maureen is a warm person who is passionate about making a difference in the lives of the people she works with. She is very knowledgeable in her field and much can be learned from her! Maureen thank you so much for a great and "ah ha" filled training, you are a great instructor and such an inspiration. The reason I took this course is because of someone who you taught in the past, which i think says a lot. I felt so comfortable, and your enthusiasm and passion made me want to pay attention to every word. I so look forward to continuing on this journey! Jill Wakelin

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Helping Financial Advisors (Heroes) Change Lives Forever!

LA Teraz

I very much agree that this training is of utmost benefit to anyone in counselling and in business and sales, I will decline, as i believe it so beneficial that I went for the full certification last year. Maureen is an excellent trainer and I benefited so much with her support, not only in certification, but in all the previous years of knowing this amazing coach. Wishing everyone the best experience in choosing to open this new door to understanding human behavior and choices

LA Teraz